![]() but, as in your case, as in many other peoples cases, monogamy isn't working for you either. but, like monogamy, it only works if all parties are up for it. There are some booklets available, and books, on open relationships that might be helpful if you interested. so it helps me considerably if dp fancies other women. when i'm a bit jealous i get aroused more, i guess i like a bit of chase. cos my libido has got so very low, i am extremely pleased he has another partner.įor me jealousy goes both ways: i both fear it and embrace it. but thats our relationship not the open side. Mine and dp's is not working well at the moment. its very important not to treat those 'outside' the realationship as playthings or of secondary importance. Open relationships work best when everyone is honest and frank and caring. now dp has a girlfriend he sees about once a week (she too has other partners, a 'main' girlfriend if you like) and i was seeing someone for a year which finished recently. When pregnant neither dp nor i were interested in other relationships but after ds got out of the breastfeeding stage we started being interested again. However, B and me are still very very close friends and he has a big role in my life still, and in my childs. i started yearning for a child and my relationship with B basically finished over that. we had the first two years together and i continued with B. when we met i was 3years already with someone, lets call him B. With my current dp this open relationship has taken numerous directions. ![]() now we live together and have a childs needs to think about we have a rule that our partners don't stay over at this house. However, things did change enormously when we had a kid. its certainly not unusual to have a lover outside of the marital set up. i appreciate its not for everyone, but/and i think its important to remember that the realities of people's relationship set ups are usually a bit more complicated than the monogamous model. I have always done open relationships, mostly for political reasons (not wanting to own someones desire etc). Ok not everyone wants to do it upside down in the wardrobe or master every position in the kama sutra, but if you have fallen into a sexual routine which is about getting him to pop his cork as quickly as possible and it's two minutes of nipple tweaking and one quick fumble round your hairy mary before he jumps on top, no wonder you're losing interest. If your expectations are so low that you think hes wonderful because he doesnt hit or rape or verbally abuse you, but on the other hand does absolutely fuck. If your expectations are so low that you think he's wonderful because he doesn't hit or rape or verbally abuse you, but on the other hand does absolutely fuck all around the house and expects to be waited on, then it's probably basic resentment that's stoppered your libido.ĭo you know what you like sexually and is he capable of giving it? In some cases, where a woman has been led to believe that 'love' makes for great sex, she may have been putting up with a bloke who is basically incompetent at it for years: technique is more important than a lot of people think. When it's 'lack of chemistry' with a 'good, kind person', it can depend on your definition of 'good kind person'.
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